Thanks for the Love

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Many of you were concerned regarding my last post.¬† Yes, I am fine ūüôā ¬†and¬†things are going really¬†good in my life despite¬†my challenges. ¬†The point I was trying to get across¬†is that as we go about our journey in life sometimes things won’t always go so smooth. There may be some obstacles, tests and¬†challenges¬†that we may have to¬†face but to never give up and for those times when¬†you fail, don’t be hard on yourself or¬†beat yourself up but pick yourself up and keep going.¬† After¬†you¬†have given it¬†your all and things don’t turn out the way¬†you wanted it¬†to we tend to normally¬†blame ourselves and¬†think that it’s¬†our fault but that’s not always true.¬†¬†This is what I had to deal with. I had confidence in myself¬†and believed the best¬†but when¬†things didn’t¬†turn out the way I wanted them to¬†I started to wonder why¬†but¬†I had to realize that it wasn’t because I wasn’t good enough or that I didn’t give it my all, sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them to for whatever reason and we have to keep it moving.

Unlike my other posts,¬†the¬†points in¬†my last¬†one probably weren’t clear¬†since I wrote¬†it last minute¬†at 1:00 a.m.,¬†¬†when¬†people are normally¬†sleeping. ¬†¬†So please forgive me for¬†the typos.¬† ūüôā¬†¬†As I say often, you guys mean a lot to me and I appreciate your support, and to my one supporter who loves everything I write – my sister.

♥ As Always, From Me to You with Love,

Nakesha

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It’s Not The End

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I know it’s been a while but I’m back.  I would like to thank everyone for their messages and words of encouragement for how my posts have helped you. I truly appreciate each message and uplifting statement that was said, as it helps me to continue to help people and see them for who they are and how they can be and not by their mistakes.  I believe that if we help each other instead of judging one another that this world would be a much better place.

Why was I gone for so long?¬† Well, over the last few months I have been dealing with a lot. I thought I was about to reach the point where I was just fed up and didn‚Äôt care anymore.¬† Things weren‚Äôt going the way I wanted them to go.¬† I wasn‚Äôt where I wanted to be and¬†I was unhappy, frustrated with myself and sad.¬† What was happening to me?¬†I’m not use to these feelings.¬† I’ve always been the happy, joyful one. ¬†I didn‚Äôt expect to be here¬†and¬†face the things that I was facing¬†at my age.¬† When I was younger I had vision, goals and a determination that just wouldn‚Äôt quit,¬†it was a good time for me. ¬†I was the mover and shaker, the doer and innovator.¬† Now, it seems like I‚Äôm the wonderer, the questioner ‚Äďcan this be done, the realist ‚Äďis this really possible, and the skeptic.¬† What was going on with me? ¬†I wasn’t the nice girl I was¬†used¬†to being;¬†being short with people, saying¬†rude things and not wanting to be around anyone. That isn’t¬†me! It was like I was in a struggle with good and bad. I felt like I was sinking so far down, that I needed a helping hand to save me. How did I get here¬†but most importantly, how do I get back to me and where I was?¬†¬† Well believe it or not the answer to that question is simple. Love you as you are regardless of your faults. You see I used to be so hard on myself to be perfect and right;¬†flawless to no end.¬† Don’t get me wrong it’s¬†good to want to have everything just right, looking nice and¬†as the way it should be¬†but when it gets to the point where you don’t allow room for¬†a mistake or to fail,¬†that perfection becomes unreasonable and hard to¬†attain. ¬†I was stretching, standing on a pedestal and jumping¬†trying to reach something that was unattainable, and when I didn’t get it, how was I to cope?

When you try to be too perfect and want to have everything just right with no room for¬†a mistake¬†you set yourself up for failure because¬†that’s unrealistic.¬†Not everything will go the way we¬†want it to and not everything will¬†turn out just right.¬†Not everyone will like us;¬†we won‚Äôt make the cut sometimes and we occasionally may¬†fail¬†and let ourselves down.¬† A lot of us believe in ourselves and that we can do what it takes to make it.¬† All we have to do is work hard, be our best and it all will turn out alright, but what happens when it doesn’t?¬† Will¬†we beat¬†ourselves¬†up over it?¬† After all,¬†we believed, we sacrificed, we gave our all and even had a good feeling about our new venture¬†but when it doesn’t go the way as planned, then what?¬†¬†What do you do¬†then?¬†¬†Wasn’t that your life? ¬†Where do we go from here?¬† Well, that’s how¬†I felt.¬†I questioned my ability and if I was on the right¬†path. ¬†Am I able to do it? Am I¬†going in the¬†right direction and if I¬†should still pursue my dreams?¬† After all, I planned every step, turn and movement to¬†make my dream a reality. Now what, when it doesn’t work out?¬†I didn’t have a back-up plan because that dream was my life!

Well, one day¬†as I was talking with my¬†friend about a totally different topic, she told me she got a new job working for the NFL. Of course, I was happy for her and yelled ‚Äúthat‚Äôs great! You‚Äôve got to introduce me all the ballas‚ÄĚ,¬†I said laughing with excitement.¬† You don‚Äôt want to meet them, she said.¬† I‚Äôm the one that rehabilitates¬†them from their injuries.¬† When they come to me it basically means that their career is over.¬† Their injuries are so bad that¬†they can’t play anymore.¬†They’re moody, angry and hardly ever in the mood to speak or meet a fan because they are dealing with¬†being replaced.¬†I¬†was saddened by her answer and yet surprised. I can understand the feeling of having something come to an end and¬†not being able to live out your dream anymore¬†but¬†at least they were once at the top¬†but that’s not¬†how they see it.¬† They let their success define them, that when they were no longer successful, and labeled as a “has been” they had no idea who they¬†were let alone who they can be again.¬† I stood there bewildered. Wondering, how can anyone let something like a job define who they are?¬†Sure, you were in the¬†big time but it was still just a job and you still have the connections.¬† Then I realized¬†¬†to them it wasn‚Äôt just a job. It was what they worked for to achieve.¬† What they fought to be perfect at, what they sacrificed¬†to create –¬†a good name for themselves that would¬†give them respect and honor.¬†Now they were replaced by the next¬†best ball player and felt like their fame was no more.

This is what I was feeling. How¬†did I let myself get here?¬† Did I not feel like I was good enough? Was what I had in my life not sufficient? ¬†I quickly snapped back to reality and said I can’t live like this anymore. I wasn’t¬†going to let my failures or¬†setbacks¬†cause me to miss out on what¬†was for me let alone lose who I truly am.¬†So. . .¬†I may not be where I want to be right now but I can certainly get there, and I may not have what I want but I will be content with what I have.

Now the question then¬†becomes, when your dreams don’t work out the way you want them to are you going to¬†let¬†defeat¬†tell you who you are or are you going to believe in a new dream and¬†have faith¬†that something great happened once and something great can happen again; listening to the voice of victory.

One thing I’ve learned is to not be so hard on myself. Life happens and from time to time we may fail but appreciate who you are despite your faults and your past bad choices. This is the best thing you can do for you and for others.

From Me to You With Love,

Nakesha