Finally Over Him

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Yes! It’s here! The day has come. The moment you realize that you are finally over your ex. One of the best feelings in the world.

Everyone has been there and  you know what I’m talking about. It’s like you got your independence back and you’re free. No more agonizing over what didn’t happen, what he or she did, or moments of anger as you sit down and plot revengeful things that you know you will never do. You don’t care anymore  if he or she never calls,  it wouldn’t bother you one bit. The day is here and your going to bask in it.  Ahhh. . . feel the sunrays shining down on you as you’re ready to go and fly to see what or who the world has for you. 🙂  Yes! Throw your arms back, looking up at the sun, smiling as it’s beaming on your face because you’ve forgotten about your ex and he or she gets no play time in your head whatsoever. I’m sure if you were walking on the street and should perhaps run into him or her, you would snub them and keep on walking, as they deserve. And, if they should just happen to call out your name, stop dead in your tracks, turn around, look at them intensely and say, “I’m sorry but do we know each other? I think NOT!” And keep it moving.

Now you’re own your way to victory and he or she is just a thing of the past that has been forgotten.

From Me To You With Love,

Nakesha

Let Him Go!

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We have all been there.  Liking that special someone (or so you thought) who just doesn’t seem to like you back.  You go through the motions of “What did I do? How come he doesn’t like me?” Then finally the  “WHAT’S WRONG WITH HIM?!” question because you know somethin’ ain’t right, with him I mean.

Ladies, please get that it’s not you. Sure, there may be some things about you that could possibly aggravate him and there could very well be some areas in your life that you need to improve and work on but the bottom line is, if he liked you he would let you know that and if that’s not happening you need to LET HIM GO.  Don’t fool yourself thinking that things will workout and say     . . he likes me, he just needs to get himself together. No! If he needs time to get himself together and he’s not making any room for you,  then you need to leave so he can find himself. Now, don’t get me wrong there are some guys out here that can use their woman’s  assistance in helping to find themselves and reciprocate the love. However, if you’ve done more than enough for your guy and he isn’t being responsive to you, your needs, feelings, kindness or loyalty, then it is time for you to get rid of him.  Close the door, say “buh bye” and keep chucking because he’s not worth it.

I know that there are times that a relationship will be tested and  you will need to work things out to be that special couple you want to be BUT if he didn’t spend Christmas with you, Valentines Day, New Years, your birthday or any other special day or  holiday (I think I named them all) then it’s time for him to go. If you guys never go out or you haven’t been out in the last 2 or 3 months –  don’t waste another minute on him.   Please listen to me when I say this because this is the truth,  if a guy likes you, he’ll show you and prove it to you. You won’t have to chase him or guess how feels about you because he won’t have a problem in letting you know.  So stop making-up excuses for his lack of relationalship  behavior i.e. not calling, texting and so forth. (I just made that word up but it seems to fit 🙂 ).  If he’s not showing you that he cares, keep walking and forget about him.

And, I know it’s disappointing when you put your time, energy and feelings into someone and they can’t seem to give you that appreciation or concern back.  You probably kept thinking that things will change and get better but the truth is you need to change. Change that way of thinking and end it and do your thing because you better believe he’s doing his. Things are not going to get better as long as he is going to continue to act the same way. So stop holding on to something that’s not right for you.  You are worth someone paying attention to you, spending time with you,  caring about you, taking you out, and celebrating with you the most exciting & memorable days of your life and if that’s not happening with him, then you need to cut it off. You don’t want someone who could care-less about you and not be there for you, when you are worth so much more.

So, forget about the one that did you wrong and make room for the one(s) that would gladly love to treat you right.

Love yourself,  your life and treat yourself right and everything will be alright.

If he’s just not that into you, he’s just not that into you, so leave him alone.

From Me To You With Love,

Nakesha